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Sexuality, Racial Terrorism and the Presidential Election

 

To understand the rallying potency of Trump’s behavior and the hatred unleashed against Clinton, consider the role of sexuality in the racial terrorism committed against Black people in the United States.

In this presidential election, Hillary Clinton is particularly despised amongst white, non-college-educated men. This is the demographic that forms the base of Trump supporters. What fears and anxieties does her campaign stir up? Read more

Restoring Parents’ Confidence

The exhausted parent

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Exhausted parent

Parents’ confidence can be fragile. Terrance demands macaroni and cheese every night, so Beth prepares two separate meals for the family. At bedtime Terrance commands Ronald to read five bedtime stories and then instructs him to say goodnight to each of his stuffed animals. The ritual takes 90 minutes and Terrance screams if Ronald doesn’t comply. Ronald and Beth haven’t enjoyed uninterrupted sleep for years because Terrance insists on sleeping with them when he awakens in the middle of every night.

The overwhelmed parent

Kenny orders Maritza to do laundry daily so that he can wear the same pair of clean black pants to school. He orders her to buy a chocolate croissant on the way to school every morning; otherwise he declares he’ll stay home. Maritza moans that she feels like a weekend prisoner in her home because Kenny refuses to get dressed all day. Read more

Healthful Eating

Recently, Susan* came to me for therapy because she was desperate to lose weight. Accomplished in many areas of her life, she was ashamed of her inability to manage her weight and had been plagued for years by yo-yoing hundred pound gains and losses. She had participated in many weight loss programs and felt like a total failure, never able to maintain her low weight achievements. She was clueless about healthful eating. When she stepped into my office the first time, she announced that food was her mortal enemy. She vowed to fight it to the bitter end, fantasizing a life without eating and wishing she could ingest all her nutrient needs by pills and through straws. Food was indeed her imaginary foe. She sought therapy as a last resort to help her stop binge eating  because the diet programs hadn’t worked. Read more

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Unhealthy Habit

I know about breaking an unhealthy habit. As a young adult I was a cigarette smoker. Most of my friends smoked. It wasn’t until I began preparing for a three-month bicycle trek that I considered that smoking might impede my pedaling stamina. I was highly motivated to quit smoking and, chewed on licorice sticks for several weeks to replace my desire for cigarettes. Once on the road, I was gratified by the freedom of deep breathing. After the trip I quickly fell back into the old comforting habit of a cigarette with morning coffee and smoking breaks with friends. I was also disgusted with myself for not resisting the smoking habit. I tried to figure out what got in the way: I had to acknowledge that I enjoyed the feeling of inhaling smoke even though the stale aftertaste disgusted me; I had to admit my attraction to social conformity – I liked to engage in a behavior with friends even though I knew that it was unhealthy for all of us. Read more